#所需特质

我再次问自己，是什么让这群新学生如此特别？首先是一种承诺，每个人都可以看到。

另外我们明白，他们必须处在他们生命中的一个点，在那里他们已经准备好要有勇气，而且要进入未知的领域。他们有某种不放弃，坚韧的品质，即使他们自己不知道。但我们可以看得到。

关于这个群体还有一些其他的品质可能会被忽略，即使它们很明显。在许多的小组中，我说，你知道，一旦你来到这里，这是一个50/50的责任。我可以做我的50（我的50里我会尽我的百分百），但你将不得不做你的50。而你的50，当然，是你继续的练习。我强调了分享你体验的力量。我强调了提问的力量。我强调了这不仅仅是为了你自己的利益做（因为这有时会有阻力），但实际要认识到，你的分享和你的提问，甚至你的练习，你的抗压力和复原力，不仅仅是为了你，它也在同时支持和加强团体中的其他人。所以我强调，我们必须处在一种“给予”与“给予”的关系中，我给出我的一切，让你变得更好。而你通过给我机会指导你，给我机会回答你的问题和分享你的体验来给予，这就是你的50。实际上，这就是一种给予-给予的关系。那我可能在这个小组里以这种方式说过，也可能没有，但由于某种原因，这个小组的成员似乎理解这件事，而且不仅是理解，她们在能量层面也准备好了，对吗？ 她们会在生活中实际地去运用。我认为这就是这个小组和其他一些小组的主要区别，尽管是你们自己选择的，但你们选择来到了这里。我没有直接邀请你们加入这个项目，并没有正式邀请。我只是给了你这个选择，但我自己没有挑选，然而不知何故，我看到的是正是你的50，使这个小组如此强大，这不是我的，不是乔伊斯的，甚至不是每天在那里支持你的那些我们的学员的，但正是你的50，使它成为可能。

#Quality/Traits and Responsibility

So I asked myself again, what makes this new group of students so special, we understand the commitment is there everybody can see it. We understand that they had to be in the point in their life where they were ready to be courageous. And to go into the unknown. They have a certain qualities of not giving up a resilience, even if they didn't know it themselves. So those qualities we could see.

There were a few other qualities about this group that could be missed, they're still obvious, but they could be missed. And in many groups, I say, you know, once you come in here, it's a 50/50 responsibility. I can do my 50%. But you will have to do your 50%. And your 50%, of course, is the the practice that you continue doing. I highlight the power in sharing your experience. I highlight the power in asking questions. And I highlight the power to do it not only for your benefit, because sometimes there's a resistance towards it, but to actually recognize that your sharing and your asking questions, and even your practicing, your resilience, is not only for you, it is also supporting and strengthening others in the group. So I highlighted that we have to be in a give give relationship where I give everything I can to make you better. And you give by giving me the opportunity to guide you, giving me the opportunity to answer your questions and sharing your experiences. And that's your end of the 50% actually, and it's a give give relationship. Now, I may have said it in this way in this group, I may have not, but for one reason or another this group understood it. I could say it in a group but not only understood it, but also was ready in this energy in the being level to bring it into life right? to actually do it. And I think that's what the main difference is with this group and maybe some other groups that even though you were self selecting, you made the choice to be here. I didn't directly invite you into this program, not officially. I gave you that choice but I didn't pick and choose myself but somehow I see it's those other qualities of your 50% that makes this group so powerful, not mine, not Joyce's, not even the students that are there every day supporting you, but it is your 50% that made it possible.